Thursday, July 9, 2009

Do You Resist Your Retirement Life Dreams?

Retirement life is a time to explore new options, have new experiences, take on challenges and yet so many people get stuck. Why?

A client left a message on my phone this week. She had taken my retirement workshop and had become interested in finding a meaningful part time job. She had not completed her homework assignment and concluded the phone message with, “Perhaps I don’t really want to do this?”


A few weeks ago, I met with my business partner for Retirement Life Matters. I ranted and railed about how I didn’t have enough time, especially to work on completing the Retirement Life Success Kit. In his irritatingly calm voice, he replied, “Do what you have to do, Cathy.”

So I set aside time- one hour a day- to work on the book, yet still I struggle. When I sit down to begin each of these daily sessions, my mind goes blank. I feel overwhelmed and out of sorts.

What is the problem with my client, with myself?

People work their whole lives to reach retirement. “Now is the time I finally get to do what I want to do,” they declare. Sure, people might take a few trips. But do they push the boundaries and dream grand dreams? Or do they feel stuck?

Why do we struggle to do the things we love? Why do we, at times, resist doing the things we’re passionate about?

Several years ago, I read an essay about resistance, written by Tama Kieves. I pulled it out yesterday, read it, made a copy of it and put it next to my computer monitor. If you struggle with resistance at doing what you love, take a look at
The Only Road to Everything You Want

1 comment:

Tom said...

Hi Cathys. I've been looking and reading on your blog. I'm a retiree, and I'm just searching for retirement stories and info since then. I like your points here. Like any other seniors, I desire good and enjoyable retirement living. Charlotte, North Carolina offers a lot of options for this. It's been my life goal to retire at the age of 40, and I guess all of my hard work (and frugality) payed off. My children doesn't have to worry about me living in a Charlotte retirement community. In fact, I'm enjoying everyday as people here are friendly. And a new job, I'm still thinking about putting up my own business where I don't have to work for hours.